If someone is willing to help me, can u tell me the truth? am i a bad person? am i being respectful? ?

am i honestly a bad person? i called my cousin in india for raksha bandhan. i talked to him for a few minutes then i gave the phone to my mom then his wife came on the phone. is that a sign that my cousin was busy? i wrote to him asking if they were affected by new delhi bomb blasts but i havent heard anything. i wrote to him on his personal email instead of writing to him on his office email. lately, his company has been going through financia losses and therefore i realized that he must be busy with his job and i should wait. everytime he talked to me on the phone last year, i told him i was busy. when he came to visit me in june, the very first thing he asked me was what i'm doing that i'm busy all the time. when i told him, he was able to tell i was making excuses. could it be now he is pretending to always be busy? when he came to the usa last year, he came by himself and didnt get time to visit me in california. when i went there, i spent three days with him then he asked me to visit india but i couldnt go. when my sister went, he thought i was coming too but i didnt let him know i wasnt coming and he called me on the day he met my sister. i told him i got busy athen his reply was "omg! everyone is busy then said we'll see when you have vacation. he called me up in april. he wanted to come visit me end of may/beginning of june of this year but i wasnt available so he came on june 18th for five days. he flew back to india on june 23rd and flew directly from lax. he took a 7 am flight from new york and landed in california around 10 am pst. when he went back to india, he took a 8:40 pm flight. he works in a bank as the vp. he was on vacation from may 23rd and reached india on june 25th. do u think he did all that because he wanted to spend time with me and wants me to remember them? when i wrote to him, he used to always reply saying hi but now he doesnt say hi anymore but he still replies. he told me i can write to once twice a month on his office email letting him know what i'm doing. i wrote to him for india's independence day and he replied me within two minutes. then i called him for raksha bandhan. when i told him who it was, then he said hi. i replied to his email a few days the following week but no reply. i was uming he spoke to me on the phone or he was busy in his office. can someone honestly send me some feedback? we might to go to india next year since my cousin and his family came, then my mom's sister and brother-in-law came. am i a rude person? after he left, i realized that it was my fault. if i written to him, things would have worked out smoothly. i miss them. they involved me in everything and made sure i wasnt left out. before going to new york, my cousin who lives in new york shifted to a new house. two days after i came, her landloard just showed up unannounced and fixed her place up. later on, my cousin said "we'll get ready and we'll go out." a few minutes later, his sister asked me. the next morning, my cousin said good morning. he gave me a hug and said "you must have been bored to death. things have been hectic for us." can i get some honest opinions? does it show this cousin cares about me?